What Is Conscious Relationship Coaching?
Relationships are a fundamental part of the human experience - We all need connection and belonging in this world. We are in relationship with our partners, friends, family, animals, community, nature, and even our careers. But what we easily tend to underestimate is that the relationship we have with ourselves sets the tone for every other relationship we have in our life.
When we look at love relationships specifically, so many of us are stumbling our way through the highs and lows without any clear purpose or intention - often leading to disappointment, unfulfillment and heartbreak. Society has conditioned us to believe what a ‘successful’ love relationship should look like: shared interests and ambitions, the number of years of marriage/partnership as a measure of success, and zero conflict just to name a few.
My views on this—>
Shared values are more sustainable than shared interests.
The ‘Quality over Quantity’ rule applies to the length of relationships too.
Zero conflict equals zero ability to connect on a deeper level.
At the heart of it all, if we want to have truly deep and meaningful relationships with others (and who doesn’t?!), then it is SO important to get connected and in alignment with WHO we are and what we stand for so that we can attract the very people we desire and deserve. We need to develop a conscious relationship with ourselves.
What is a Conscious Relationship?
Our unconscious thoughts play a significant role in our daily lives, often influencing our behaviour, emotions and decision making processes. Science suggests that up to 95% of our mental processing occurs at the unconscious level.
A conscious relationship is one that is created with self-awareness, intentionality, and choice. Being in a conscious relationship with ourselves asks us, with compassion and acceptance, to be willing to engage in personal growth so that we can transform our thoughts, beliefs and behaviors in order to live in alignment with our visions and dreams. Here are some ways to recognizing conscious VS unconscious patterns when it comes to relationship:
Unconscious relationship patterns:
Belief that you are broken or not good enough
Negative self talk
Seeking approval from others
Fear of saying no or setting healthy boundaries
Staying small or settling
Keeping the peace
Reacting to others with anger, blame, jealousy
Conscious relationship patterns:
Belief that you are worthy and deserving of all you desire
Clearly understand your own needs
Prioritize self love and respect
Honour your values and boundaries
Allow space for your feelings
In alignment with your values, dreams, goals
Have a sense of meaning and purpose
Take accountability and responsibility for your actions
If you recognize yourself playing out some of the unconscious patterns, please know that you do not need to ‘fix’ yourself in order to be lovable. Curiosity is key, and healing/integrating past wounds takes a lot of courage to work through. It is also important to note that choosing to live consciously takes active and ongoing commitment and does not always look perfect.
What is Conscious Relationship Coaching?
Sometimes we don’t know where to begin when we are in that endless rut and spinning circles only to relive our same story over and over again. As a certified coach, I use solution-focused work to help you create and experience the life of your choosing. I’m on a mission to help you transform into your highest potential. We’ll have conversations, laughs and (likely) some tears as you begin to witness your life take on a whole new meaning and direction.
I empower people to redefine their worth and connection to self so that they can confidently and courageously attract the healthy relationships they deserve. Conscious relationship coaching is NOT: fixing yourself so that you’ll be lovable, needing a partnership so that you’ll be happy, or trying to change your partner.
Are you ready to up-level and create your new love story? I invite you to book a call with me.